Are Backyard Weddings Tacky?

Bill Taylor
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Plan in Advance

It doesn't take a lot of planning time to get a wedding together. If you wait until the last minute, you will be stressed and there will be a lot of pressure. That's why you need to spend at least 6 to 8 months, or even up to a year, planning your wedding.

You should think about all the details that go into a wedding and agree on all the important points. You need to choose the location, marriage officiant, bridal party, caterers, decorations, music and transportation. Choose your color scheme and the engagement ring. You'll want to buy your dress and start looking for your wedding gown. Start your wedding-related exercise and diets now. Plan the honeymoon too.

Consider Going for a Theme Reception

The best way to make your backyard wedding unique is by creating a theme. So instead of having the traditional "cocktail party" reception, for instance, why not sample some traditional recipes from each place? Have your guests dress up as the traditional ingredients in your recipe or the favorites that they suggest. Let each individual guest create a salad or appetizer to be served for the reception and make a contest out of it. So, if you're a baker, you could have your friend bring over her favorite recipe which you'd be happy to bake and serve. Ask your guests to bring and decorate their favorite desserts and have them choose a theme ingredient to go into their dessert. For instance, if you're having a Mexican theme, sugar could be the ingredient. Then, have everyone bring their contribution, contributed to the potluck dinner you've planned and host your own cookie swap.

Choose Your Colors Carefully

You should also choose your colors carefully. Be sure to choose colors that aren’t too dark or too light. You don’t want to choose over-saturated colors either, or anything that is bold and bright. You want something that is simple and elegant. This is a time when it’s good to think about who you are marrying. Are they the kind of people who want a certain kind of style? Is there a period of time that they want to be married in? You can use your colors to tie into a place, the time of year, or even the mood you’re trying to set.

You don’t want a big, bold dress. You want something that is simple and elegant. Depending on your budget, you might have to go a bit more creative on the dress. If you can, you should try to get a nice pair of shoes and a handbag to complement the dress. Or perhaps you can find some accessories, like a shawl or a hat. Be sure to keep the dress simple, yet elegant. Flowers can be a great way to tie all of this together.

Add Flowers in Your Backyard

The very mention of the word `tacky’ brings up some things that most people would agree are bad. That is, tacky = over the top or anything that is a little bit raunchy or immodest. In today’s world, tacky items are usually in bad taste or made from low-quality materials.

Almost everyone loves flowers as long as they look good, smell good, and are within common sense and style. Most people would probably agree that backyard weddings are tacky, but what about adding flowers to your backyard?

While we don’t recommend what the average backyard wedding might suggest, adding flowers to your backyard is something most people would agree is adorable.

Don’t Underestimate the Need for a Tent

If you are going to have an outdoor wedding ceremony there is no way around it: you will probably need to rent a tent. This doesn’t necessarily mean that it will have to be an expensive affair. There are many tent rental companies that cater to weddings. The tent will be set up by them, so you won’t have to worry about a thing. You may also want to consider saving a few bucks by not including any lights or other accessories that add to the look of the tent.

Many couples who have their ceremony outdoors also have some sort of a reception. If that is the case, you can find a tent with a larger floor space that will be perfect for the reception as well.

All of the tables, chairs, lighting and other party decorations can be stored easily under the tent until it is time for the party. Don’t forget that the tent is still a piece of your venue. It is important to have boundaries and use them to your advantage. If your tenting company offers a free tent flooring, utilize it. Tents are notorious for getting water on the floor. The water may come from rain, or, more probably, from spills. For this reason, you may also want to rent chairs with sturdy legs that can hold your guests off the ground.

Have a Dance Floor for Fun

A backyard wedding can be a fun activity to plan if you live on a lake and have a dock. A fancy meal can be served on the dock afterwards. The dock can be decorated with lanterns and sequined hanging stars that have been converted to hang from the overhang of the dock. The ceremony can have as much pomp and circumstance as you plan. An ice sculpture of a swan can greet your guests as they board the boat and an ice sculpture of your first dance as husband and wife can greet your guests when they depart. You can have a professional photographer take pictures in an efficient manner because the guests have to go back to their own homes and get home in time to make dinner.

Everyone will be speckled with champagne and sparkles to boot!

Get a Staff Together

The most important resource you'll need for your wedding is your staff. Perhaps you've decided you will not hire any additional help, or maybe you'll look into hiring a full wedding planner, in which case I have you covered as well. Hiring an outside wedding planner or florist is a luxury some revel in, but it's not a requirement. Not all brides love the idea of having a mega-bully boss living in their heads until the actual wedding day, telling them how to decorate and prepare for the moment. After all, you certainly don't need a person telling you exactly how to put on a wedding dress. You're a grown woman! You know how to tie your own shoes. That's what many ladies choose to do, and that's fine. But if you're like me, my motto is, if you can get something done cheaper and more efficiently by hiring it out, then why on Earth wouldn't you?

Go for the Best Portable Bathrooms

If a wedding is a once in a lifetime event, why worry about the after effects so much? There are many great reasons to consider the environment when having a backyard wedding, one of them being the effect the rain will have on the location. If it's a rainy afternoon, you'll have to make sure that whatever venue you choose can handle some precipitation and is able to clean up after yourself.

Another option for having a backyard wedding without worrying about the rain is to have an outdoor wedding chapel. It can be used for other occasions when it's not in use for weather related events. There are many Bali outdoor wedding chapels that offer a beautiful setting for an intimate, yet large event, because you can use the inside of the sheltering structure.

Then there's always the option of a virtual wedding. Your friends and family are invited to join you virtually to celebrate your special day. The bride and groom can meet in separate locations, or you could meet elsewhere, and have a professional couple of your choice take the photographs you will cherish forever.

Rent the Equipment

Have you been planning the wedding of your dreams but are afraid that it is going to be too expensive? Or maybe its just too late and you are already there? Well fear no more. If you booked the wedding of your dreams but are worried about the high price tag, there is a way to cut costs.

Renting equipment is not just for rock bands anymore. You can rent everything from tuxes to flowers when it comes to weddings. Is there a reason to own a piece of equipment if you only use it once or twice a year?

You can rent anything from a wedding dress to flowers to just about any piece of equipment. Companies will come to you, to your home and set up for your wedding. All you have to do is pay when you are done and at your leisure. The companies that have started to rent out equipment for weddings realize the strength of the wedding industry. The rental prices and interest in renting have increased significantly because of the money to be made.

Wedding guests love to come to a wedding that is bursting with authenticity. Think of what a beautiful wedding would be like if every single element was untouched by a corporate hand. Planning your wedding can be so much fun and the free spirits and unique ideas will be overlooked if the wedding is overpriced. Not to mention that all of your guests will be celebrating your love, not the amount of money you spent to put on the wedding.

Light up the Night

By having a backyard wedding at night, you give people the option to enjoy the serenity of the natural surroundings, while still being able to see and hear the festivities of the reception. Lighting up the night is an easy way to make your backyard wedding a really memorable experience. There are many different types of lighting that you can add to your space to best suit your wedding theme.

White strings of lights over a wooden pergola is a classic look. Hanging lanterns in the trees creates a magical atmosphere. LED holiday lights have come a long way and serve as a great decorative option in any season.

If you prefer to keep your garden low-key, paper lanterns also offer a dramatic, soft lighting option. Be sure to hang them as close to the ground as possible. If your wedding venue is in a built-up space, lights can be hung on the inside of your home as well. Hang strings along your open staircases, over the buffet tables, and in the background of your wedding photos.

Certainly you don't have to be a baller to throw a great backyard wedding. The most important thing is to do what feels right to you. While you can always plan ahead and try to avoid any major faux pas, it can be a good idea to consider which situations you are comfortable letting slide.


It might seem a bit silly that someone would have to ask themselves that question. However, there are many people in this world that love weddings, while at the same time, love their finances more. Backyard weddings can be a great alternative for those who don’t want the usual wedding ceremony, but still want a day to celebrate their union. They’ve become the reasonable go-to option to say, I do. But there are those who still feel as though it’s not the appropriate thing to do for their wedding day. What’s the real answer to this question—is it tacky to have a backyard wedding, or not?

Now, the answer has two sides to it. It’s basically a decision that two people have to come to, the bride and the groom. It is up to them to decide what they want to do with their special day. One of the ways that you can get a better idea of what you’ll prefer is to ask around and see what your friends and family think. If they are in agreement with you, then you can feel more confident about your decision. If they are against it, then you can at least know that you’re not alone in that opinion, and that your feelings on the matter have been validated.